#17 Gossiping, Moaning And Complaining—End It Today!
May 15, 2008
When you are feeling overwhelmed, out of control, depressed or negative, your conversation tends to be less than positive. This is when gossiping, moaning and complaining slip into the conversation. Unfortunately, after a while they become the norm.
I have a client I meet with once a week. He spends the first half-hour of our meeting moaning and complaining about the company he works for. It is tragic and sad and, to be honest, very depressing. My advice to him is always the same-leave. Find a company where you will be happy; life is far too short for ongoing misery.
There is absolutely nothing to be gained from gossiping, moaning and complaining; on the contrary, it has a long-term negative effect on those around you. It can also start to create a corporate culture that revolves around this mentality. Gossip only works if it is passed on.
Creating a positive, nurturing environment is far more important and the rewards are far greater. But it takes an effort to break the cycle if it already exists in your business-and you may be the main culprit.
Every time you find yourself starting to gossip, moan or complain, stop yourself in your tracks and rethink what you were going to say. If you have staff gossiping, moaning or complaining to you, let them know that you are simply not interested. Tell them that you don’t like to gossip, moan or complain-you have moved on. Some people won’t like this, but tough. (With reference to the client I was talking about, sometimes it’s not so easy to put a stop to it. It may be that the only answer is to drop such clients if they are too depressing.)
Balance and harmony in life is as much about what you say and hear as it is about what you see and do. Negativity breeds negativity; positivity breeds success.
What can I do today?
Make a concerted effort from this minute on not to get involved in gossiping, moaning or complaining, in any shape or form.
[tags]Balance Life, out of balance, Gossiping, Moaning, Complaining[/tags]
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