#15 What Words Describe Your Life Now And In The Future?
May 13, 2008
Make a list of the words that describe your life now and how you would like it to be in the future. This tip follows on from the last, but it is a little more specific about how you can change the way you think. In my experience, the people who are positive and energetic about their life and their business are always much happier and more balanced. If you listen closely to what they say you will see that their words reflect their thoughts-and that is the key.
Recently I was having a massage to relieve pain from holding too much stress in my neck. The masseuse talked and talked, which was beginning to drive me crazy because I was in so much pain. But then I decided to stop feeling sorry for myself and started listening to her. She was amazing. She was raving about how much she loved her job-being able to meet people, look out the window into her garden, travel from place to place. I thought she must have been new to the game, but she then went on to say she had been doing it for 20 years. I was dumbfounded. Twenty years of rubbing oil on strangers’ backs and she loved it as much today as the day she started. Extraordinary.
All too often we find it a struggle to identify what it is we like about our lives and what we don’t like. I made up an exercise for myself a few years ago in which I started with a description of how I saw my life at the time-what I liked, what I didn’t like and what I wanted to change. Then I wrote another description about how I wanted my life to be, right down to how much money I wanted to earn, what type of woman I wanted to be in a relationship with, where I wanted to travel to and when, and even what kind of car I wanted to drive.
So here I had two bits of paper, one in each hand. One said where I was today and the other described where I wanted to be. Now I could get a clear picture in my head of where I was heading and why.
This is a very powerful exercise on many levels. For starters, it makes you stop and think about what is missing in your life and what you really want to achieve. Statistically, less than 5 per cent of people have written goals like this. Interestingly enough, the people who are the most successful normally fit into that group.
Defining the goals that you want to achieve can be tough. I tend to break them up into a few categories, including business, relationship, health, financial and spiritual. Regardless of how you want to go about defining where you are going, just doing it is a great start. Be a little flexible. It isn’t an exam with right or wrong answers.
What can I do today?
Write down all the things about your life that you like or don’t like on a piece of paper. Then, on a separate piece of paper, write down how you would like your life to be. Make it as specific as you can.
[tags]Balance Life, out of balance, Your Life[/tags]
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